Don't get me wrong, I can keep friendships - ask my friend Lisa Jarrett who made me eat play dough in kindy, or my friend Hayley who stole beer for me out of her dad's fridge. In fact ask Lisette - although I am suspicious that Lisette and I are only still friends because we know too much about each other to ever break up. I just seem to lose more friendships then I keep. I have passionate friendships that end in heartache. Is this normal? Do you have to keep every friend you ever make? And should it be such a big deal to say to someone: "I don't want to be your friend anymore because I've decided that I don't actually like you."
Making a new friend feels to me like dating - you meet, you like each other, you text, you go out for coffee, they come round, you have fun, you go to a movie and then they confuse you and treat you like shit and you break up. Then you cry and say, "What is wrong with me?"
The bottom line is that friendships are relationships and relationships are complicated. The problem with friendships though is that there isn't a clear rulebook - how often should you see each other? How much should you put up with? What should you expect from a friendship? How do you build a quality friendship that will last the distance?
I'm just gonna put it out there - girls/ladies can be nasty pieces of work and having grown up with two brothers, I often struggle to understand these fascinating creatures. Why say one thing when you mean another? Why talk behind my back when you could say it to me? Why are you so nice to my face when I know it is fake?
Do you know what though? Nothing beats a great friend and maybe you have to go through a few to find out who those special someones are…….