So, I've started an experiment. Throughout the last couple of years, I have made a conscious effort to ignore my desire to go towards the exciting, dramatic ones and make myself walk towards the lovely people. The ones who I can see are thoughtful and kind by their actions. And guess what? They are interesting. I just never gave them enough time before. Because of my love of instant gratification I went straight for the 'interesting' people and yes I got my fix but I always ended up being chewed up and spat out. In the last couple of years, I have made an effort to get to know and enjoy people's company who don't stress me out and who are kind to others (often before they think about themselves). And I've been amazed. I've dug away and uncovered some beautiful diamonds. I hate to think about how many fabulous and possibly life long friendships I have missed out on because of my love of drama and entertainment.
I suppose, part of growing up is learning, and I'm happy I've made this discovery. I have realised that a trait I do not value in a friend is nastiness - to myself or others. I've learnt that I need to make more of an effort with people. I've learnt that the best people to know are the ones that might take a little longer to get to know.
And because I'm a sentimental old fool, I wrote an article about it. Maybe we have to hunt for the special people in our life, look under rocks and around corners. Maybe, they're not there right in front of us.