Having grown up with brothers, I think I might be missing something. I seem to get extremely hurt when I am crossed by a woman. Men are just so much more straightforward. If they have a problem, they sort it out and then it's finished. Women seem to hold grudges for far longer and I often feel that I cannot completely trust the female species because they might not be saying what they mean. Sometimes, I have had women mad at me and I honestly don't know why. I am left confused about the situation which means it is often just easier for me to hang out with my husband, my brothers and my cousin. At least I know where I stand with them!
Being a feminist can be difficult. It is hard trying to have a career, be a mum, be a wife, look great and be a friend. I know most of us are trying to do too much most of the time. I get the feeling that not only are we expecting too much of ourselves, we are expecting too much of others also.
Read this great article on perfection here.
Are we too competitive as women? I remember saying to a friend suffering from a bout of jealousy "Just because someone else looks beautiful, it doesn't mean that you don't. And just because someone else is successful, it doesn't mean that you aren't." I suppose the only way to break the cycle is to not be a mean woman ourselves - to say well done when another woman does a good job and try not to feel jealous. It can be very difficult though, when you are on the receiving end of someone being a mean woman to you.
Here's a video about how to deal with mean women.
"We are finally learning to harness our anger and use it to change the world. But we have not stopped turning against each other. Until we do, sisterhood will continue to be a comforting theory rather than an everyday reality. This is the next great taboo subject: when will women learn not to divide but to unite? And how can we learn to be allies when society still pits us against each other as tokens."