Neither did I!
We caught up with gothic wedding celebrant Steff Green to find out a bit about the dark side.....
Describe to us the perfect gothic wedding day.
"Goth" means different things to different people, and so every couple brings their own interpretation and personality to their "gothic" or "alternative" wedding day. I think a gothic wedding has to have an element of intense, passionate romance, a bit of grandeur and drama, and dark and slightly sardonic sense of humour. All the gothic and alt. weddings I've done have been a real community efforts – with friends and acquaintances from the alt. community chipping in to decorate cakes, take photographs, sew dresses … I love that there is a real community sense about them.
What are your three favourite things about living in New Zealand?
I love that we live in the amazingly new landscape, geographically speaking. We are almost primordial – and that makes for a very unique country and very unique people, I think. I love that you are never more than an hour from the ocean. I love that I am surrounded by amazing, innovative people AND incredible natural beauty.
Do you have any heavy metal fashion tips for us in 2013?
Right now I am seeing a lot of the fashions that have been big in Europe over the last couple of years coming into New Zealand – the giant spikes on heels, lots of leather, lots of graphic tees and runic imagery. I love how you can use pieces like this to add a bit of attitude to your daily outfits without looking like a total bogan (I don't mean this in a bad way, as I am a total bogan). My favourite NZ designer to watch is definitely Jimmy D, and I love Meadowlark jewellery.
What inspires you in your day-to-day life?
Pretty much everything! Because I'm a writer I spend a lot of time in front of a computer screen, so I try to make sure that when I'm away from it, I'm really away from it. I spend a lot of time with friends and family, go to a lot of concerts, theatre, other fun things. I read a lot, travel a lot, like to walk outside and get all my best ideas in the shower of at 2am in the morning when my husband is trying to sleep.
But I guess most of all I am inspired by my husband – probably because I spend so much time with him, and whenever we start talking about something we spin off 100 crazy ideas and we're both very big on putting ideas into action.
So, you are legally blind yet you run your own businesses. Do you have any advice for women who are starting up their own business?
I am legally blind – I have a rare genetic condition called achromatopsia. My eyes have no cone cells, and so I don't see in colour, and I'm extremely short sighted.
So much advice – too much advice! Don't try and do everything at once. Write down every idea you have and store them in a big "Awesome Ideas" folder so you can come back to them later if you want – but don't feel you have to attempt it all AT THE SAME TIME (I am better at giving this advice than taking it). Don't risk more than you can afford to lose – most businesses can be started on a tiny budget as a side gig while you work your main job – there's no reason to start quitting this and remortgaging that. And in your first year focus a HUGE amount of attention on networking – join groups like BNI and Chamber of Commerce, go to events, talk to lots of people about what you do. I waited too long to really focus on this and it has held me back. It's hard – especially if you're a shy lass like me – but I can assure you it does get easier!
Check out Steff's gothic wedding celebrant site.