Could you be the perfect girlfriend?
Love these prints by Ema Frost!
Feminism and breast implants do go together.
Are you an optimist or a pessimist?
What does doing something like a girl mean?
Bowl cuts are a sin and 10 other things you wouldn't think are sins.
Could you be the perfect girlfriend?
Love these prints by Ema Frost!
Feminism and breast implants do go together.
Are you an optimist or a pessimist?
What does doing something like a girl mean?
At Le Petite Mania over the last few days we have been talking about success and women. Why do so many women think they are a failure? Why do so many women lack self esteem? How do we measure our own success and why when we look at other women do we always seem to think they are more successful than ourselves?
We needed to have a good hard look at what our own yard sticks for success were and have a think about whether each individual we know can be measured by our definition of success - including ourselves.
If you google 'successful woman' then it comes up with a whole bunch of women in suits looking very business like. We don't wear a suit to work. Does that make us unsuccessful? Some people think success is having a great career, then there are other women who have great careers and who thing success is having a family. Some women think they can only be successful if they are thin and beautiful. Does anyone think you are successful if you are smart anymore?
We like this article from Huffington Post about 12 things successful women do differently. Not comparing yourself to others is a huge one! Sometimes you're ahead and sometimes you're not but as far as we can tell, comparing yourself to others is never a good thing.
Sometimes it helps to write down ten things you are happy about with your life and stop trying to live for other people or thinking about how other people perceive you.
Success is in the eye of the beholder.
Amidst my fond memories of my grandmother is her describing me as a bookworm. She would find me in odd places reading and say, "Isn't she a little bookworm." I would smile up at her then go back to my reading. She was a fellow bookworm and would tell me how she used to read behind the piano, tucked away and quiet (obviously no-one played the piano!) The trait has been passed down from generation to generation. I simply cannot imagine a life without books.
I would absolutely love to know how many books I have read. Reading to me is like meditating. I read in bed, I read at the table, I read on the toilet, I read in the bath. I look forward to reading.
Now I find my daughter in odd places reading. Reading when she is meant to be getting ready for school, reading when she is meant to be sleeping, reading when she is meant to be eating. I try to tell her off but I just can't do it seriously because I know how much better and more interesting reading is than anything else in the world. Why would I deny my own child one of life's great pleasures.
It's a spot of luck when you find a fellow bookworm - a kindred spirit. Someone who when you walk into their home you spy books on the table, books on the chairs, books crowding the bookshelves. That's when you start to talk to that person "Have you read this? Have you read that?" You find someone whose opinion you trust on what book you should read next then go and hunt that one out.
I think finding a fellow bookworm is how a musician must feel when they find someone to play music with - it's like speaking a language that some people can't understand. I love it when I hear someone say "That book changed my life," because I know what they mean. I have books that are more important in my growth than people I have known and I remember times in my life from what book I was reading when certain events happened.
Let's have a toast to the bookworms (you know who you are).
Game of Thrones - Hey let's watch that show about the dragons and the Lannisters and the wall - no, let's not. I hate the violence. I hate it how sometimes the dwarf is a goody and sometimes he's a baddy. I hate it how the twins are having an affair. I hate that creepy blond guy. I hate it all. I hate the books and I hate the show. And now I feel alone because I am alone. Everyone else loves it. Sob.
Ice cream - too cold.
The time frame 20 minutes - a long time to wait and not long enough to do anything decent. I know other people like this time frame because they say things like "Give me 20 minutes."
Give you 20 minutes for what???!!!! What are you going to do in 20 minutes? Nothing. Nothing good can be done in 20 minutes and now I have to wait a long time for you.
Concerts - Now, don't get me wrong, I like music. I just like listening to music while I'm doing other things - like driving or cleaning. I don't like being trapped in an area for a couple of hours standing (or sitting) pretending I am enjoying myself while I am thinking about all the other things I could be doing with my time. I know, I know! So many people love concerts and want to go to them all the time and tell me about how excited they are about going to them and I wish I shared that love - I just don't
My husband - lots of people think he's really nice but I find him annoying.
Lollypops - sickly sweet and bad for your teeth. And also old! How long has that stuck together sugar been lying around in that plastic? Shudder.
The problem with quirky.
The real story of Pavlov's dogs.
Cool old abandoned mansions.
500 years of female portraits.
Can a man be a feminist?
Kerri Piercey runs the blog Cold Coffee Confessions. It's a realistic take on motherhood and it really made us laugh. We caught up with the funny and inspiring Kerri to see how she's going!
"Be kind, be caring, be kinky."
I love colour! All colours from pale greys to deep jewel tones. The colour of life moves my world!
Where do you live? Where are you from?
I currently live in St. John’s, which is the capital city of Newfoundland, Canada. During my school days I lived in a small outport community on the Avalon Peninsula. I’m not sure if it’s still 100% true, but there were whisperings that my hometown was the foggiest place in Canada. To say our summers were dreadful would be an understatement. I guess it would explain why we all started experimenting with beer at an early age!
How long have you been blogging?
Pervious to starting Cold Coffee Confessions, I was writing a fitness blog for a few months. It was fine while I was motivated, but after the third post about my cheating at meals and shit I realized that I was a terrible fitness blogger. Yes, I love lifting weights and the thought of being lean, but my kids make me eat. The stresses of everyday life seem much less difficult when I have chocolate in my belly. I know it’s a dumb way to deal with things (and my very tight pants remind me in a daily basis) but it’s either chocolate or selling the kids. One of those two things is a lot less difficult to accomplish and I’ve yet to meet someone serving time in jail for being chubby.
This new blog has been on the go for two months, and what a ride it’s been so far! I think I’ve found my niche.
What made you start writing about your experiences as a wife and mother?
I was actually encouraged by my friends and family to start blogging about my experiences as a wife and mother. Updating my Facebook statuses with foolish little stories about my every day life was a fun past time, and those around me responded very positively to what I was putting up. No joke, every two days or so I would get someone asking me to start a blog. For a long time I avoided it because I really didn’t think what I had to say was interesting enough to catch anyone’s attention (outside of those I force to read my things!). After the epic failure of my fitness blog, I was no longer worried about failing. So what if people hate me? At least I’d give someone out there something to gossip about. I mean, with the fitness blog I posted pictures of myself in an ill-fitting bikini for the world to see. Seriously, it was pretty sad. I’m sure someone out there has that picture saved and is doing scary things with it. So, what difference did it make if I let people see what a train wreck staying at home with kids could be?
What kind of reactions have you had to your website?
Apparently, my views on life are very polarizing. People either really enjoy my stories, or they hate me with a burning passion. Getting hate mail is a whole new thing for me! I mean, I’ve had in-laws who have disliked me, but to know that a perfect stranger is out there bashing my name on the Internet is a whole new experience. For a while I was tracking the sites that people were bashing me on, but I had to stop after I found myself starting to doubt what I was doing. To allow little-miss-fuckhead the power to stop me from blogging was too much. The writing has given me a new, fun pastime that doesn’t require ass wiping or preparing meals. It’s been a lifesaver!
The people who like the blog seem to really like it. They see someone saying the words, vocalizing the thoughts that they’ve had but are too scared to admit. The letters from those viewers keep my blogging fires burning. Either way, after two months and roughly 280,000 views, I must be saying something that interests someone :D
Do you consider yourself a feminist? Why? Why not?
I don’t consider myself a feminist, but I do believe in women standing up for themselves and their rights. My role as a SAHM came about simply because I felt it was the right choice for my children and our family. I fully support the women who go back to work after kids, those who never work at all and let their partner take the financial responsibility for the family. For me, the only important part is that women do what is best for them and their loved ones. Everyone is so different; it wouldn’t make sense for me to judge another woman because her choices.
I am a very strong woman with very strong opinions. My husband knows this all too well, (Sorry, Hubs! But not really.) and I am raising my boys to be equally as strong. It is so important for us to raise the next generation to ignore boundaries based on sex. If my boys want to grow up to be housewives, good on them! If they marry women who want to keep their own last name and become a CEO of a company, great! If my child decides to become a professional UFC fighter and grunt out every sentence, I’m fine with that. The main thing is that they never look another human being in the face and tell them that they can’t do something based on the way that nature created them. Seriously, people! Some of us have a vagina; some of us have a penis. The only thing that should determine is which way you choose to pee in the woods.
There are not as many stay at home mums around these days. How are you finding it?
Honestly, I find it fucking hard. The mental challenge is worse than any university exam I ever had to face. I left a job managing a museum to stay at home with my kids. Having spent years in school, then working various jobs, to sitting at home with my boob out while a child has an explosive crap out of his diaper all over my forearm, I can say without a doubt that my former life was ten times easier and at times so much more enjoyable. There was a freedom that I had without kids that I never really appreciated. That being said, I wouldn’t have my life any other way. My kids are my entire world. I love them to the ends of this earth and as miserable as I may feel at times, especially on the days when I haven’t spoke to an adult in a week and everyone is sick with a cold, I still have the privilege to look these two little miracles in the eyes and know that they were destined to be here with me. They make my life worth living.
We love your open and honest writing. Is it hard to be honest? Do you ever get scared of what the reactions might be?
It isn’t hard for me to be honest. Growing up, I was always the kid with the answers. If someone had an embarrassing question or needed someone to ask an embarrassing question, I was your gal. It isn’t that I have no shame, but I feel like we are raised to be ashamed of things that we shouldn’t be! My whole post on my vagina and queefing? That was easy. You find me a woman who hasn’t queefed during sex and I’ll show you a big, fat, cunny-farting liar. If I was scared to ask questions, there is a pretty good chance I would have thought I was permanently broken after childbirth. Women need to be honest and open with one another about this stuff because we all experience it in one way or another and there is no shame in it at all! No, my experiences probably won’t be yours, and that’s okay! But feel free to tell me yours, and maybe I’ll learn something new and not be as panicked when it happens to me later on.
Not everyone enjoys my honesty and I’ve been told in the past that I should shut my mouth. You know, keep this shit private. Respect my elders. Respect my family! Yeah, Uhm … not a chance. I won’t tell the world about your life (I keep secrets like it’s my job!) but if it is a story about my life, my body, or my thoughts you can bet your prudish little ass that I’ll share that freely. Life is too short to have shame or feel embarrassed.
Have you always been funny? Ha! Weird question! Have you always liked making people laugh? Or do you do it by accident?
It has to be by accident. I never set out to be funny when I write, but I do enjoy a little exaggeration now and then. While growing up, we were poor and it took a pretty damn good sense of humor to get through the things we had to deal with. If you get the six of us together in a room, my family and I will have you laughing and most likely praying for our souls by the end of the day. Any humour that comes through in my writing is a direct reflection of the way I was raised. When you live in a world void of the fun things that money can buy, your best defense is to take the gifts that nature gave you, like humour, and use it to make every day the best damn day that money can’t possibly buy. We may not have had much but I have a better relationship with my family than most people I know.
I loved your article about playgroup. My least favorite memory from when my daughter was little was when I took her to (fucking) Mainly Music. Worst day of my life. I never went back. Do you feel like you are writing things that other women want to say about motherhood but can't?
Absolutely! I hear it after every post. Women will write me in private and share their experiences, telling me all the things they deal with on a daily basis. I’ve actually mentioned to a few people about doing a guest post on the blog because their stories are fantastic, but they’ve mostly all declined out of fear of what others would say. It’s like being a good mother/wife and being an honest person with honest feelings are mutually exclusive. If anything, I hope that my blog helps women realize they can have it all! Calling your kids assholes don’t mean you don’t love them, just as staying silent in hopes to be seen as the perfect wife does not equate to living a happy life.
Thanks Kerri! You can visit Kerri on Facebook and Twitter @Kerripiercey and don't forget to check out her blog!
It's exciting times at Le Petite Mania at the moment! Why? Because (sadly) we are down to very few remaining copies of our first book 'Lady Luck - Conversations With Creative New Zealand Women', our collection of intimate interviews with creative women from New Zealand. But on the bright side, it is now available for you to buy as a digital download! And for a outstandingly affordable price of just US $9.99!
For more info on Lady Luck click here. Of if you know all about it and just wanna buy your digital copy now, click here to head to our shop.
As an avid watcher of incredibly shitty TV, it is my job to watch these kind of shows and enjoy them profusely. Even though many others claim to hate the model shows, the renovation shows, the food shows and The Kardashians, I love them all.
So of course I have been watching 'The Face Australia' on Channel Four. It has everything a good modeling show needs - catty mentors, hungry young women and prizes for the hungry young women. There are three judges (Naomi Campbell, Nicole Trunfio and Cheyenne Tozzi) and they each have four models who they mentor and coach/criticise how to become good models. They say things to the girls like "Shut your mouth," and "Don't lift up the dress," and "I'm not feeling it."
They are great coaches really. Except for Nicole because she has nobody left on her team (note - may not be Nicole's fault. May be Naomi's.)
So, the point is that I have been enjoying the show innocently until recently this shit got dangerous. I was lying on my couch eating chocolate watching the models when their challenge came up. They had to wear wedding gowns in a catwalk show. Easy, right? No, no, no, no, no, no, no! The girls were given dresses far too long for them and forced to walk up and down steep stairs in fricken high heels. And that is when it hit me. They wanted them to fall! These poor, hungry children were about to become the victims of manslaughter! The shows producers were trying to MURDER them. They wanted good TV so bad, they were happy enough to put young girls in danger and the young girls had no choice but to do it. Otherwise what would Naomi say? What would Naomi do? She might eat them for her breakfast the next day (she's pretty scary).
I watched the challenge peeking out from behind my hands. It was like some twisted horror film. Would they fall? Would they survive the fall? Would they look beautiful as they fell - more importantly would they look thin as they fell??
It was all very distressing. You can see it here on Episode 5. The attempted murder starts at about 27.51 min.
Luckily, none of them fell and died so I could go back to my sweet, little life.
But… I felt different somehow……like I had a weird feeling in my tummy. Like what I had seen wasn't quite right.
In early 2012 Taika Waititi and Jemaine Clement received a letter from The New Zealand Documentary Board requesting their help to create a documentary about a secret society residing in Wellington.
They were told that their mission, if they chose to accept it was to capture an intimate insiders viewpoint of the workings of this strange group of individuals. They were guaranteed safety for themselves and their film crew as long as they were to abide by a few simple rules. Rule one: All crew members must wear crucifixes at all times. Rule two: Crew members were not to consume pizza, pasta or other garlic based products immediately before filming. Rule three: No virgins. All crew members must disclose their sexual history. Rule Four: Any crew member with open cuts or abrasions, must stay away from work until said abrasion has healed.
Understandably Waititi and Clement were apprehensive about entering the lair of four Wellingtonian vampire flatmates, though being the professional documentary makers that they are, they persevered and most importantly they survived! Thus, What We Do In The Shadows mas made. And aren't we lucky it was!
What We Do In The Shadows tells the story of four flatmates who live in Miramar, Wellington. They are normal flatmates. They do the usual stuff that most flatmates do. Namely they argue over house work, they go clubbing and they prepare meals. It just so happens that these four guys are also vampires who feed off of human blood, so when they argue over chores it's more along the lines of "who spilled ze blood all oveur ze living room carpet?!"
Let me introduce you to the team: First up we have Viago (Waititi), the middle child. He's sweet and earnest and even though he is a foul murderous blood sucker, he is really quite endearing. I have a soft spot for Viago. He's like a tiny vampire puppy that you want to cuddle. Next up is Vladislav (Clement), he's more stern and menacing than dear Viago but he's had a tumultuous past 800 years, which he is still recovering from, so he can be forgiven for his austere nature. Finally the youngest, Deacon (Johnny Brugh), the "sexy vampire", he's only around 150 years old so he's really still the baby of the group. Or he is until the trios' fourth flatmate, 8000 year old Petyr, turns 20 something-year-old Nick, into a new vampire. As Petyr is more Nosferatu than man these days, Viago, Vladislav and Deacon must take it upon themselves to teach young Nick the ropes of immortal life. In turn though Nick and his human buddy Stu (a web developer) teach the vamps all about life in this new modern world.
The Fantastic (Blood) Red Carpet
I was lucky enough to attend the Wellington première of the film last night, so I can honestly say that What We Do In The Shadows is a hilarious, rollicking, thigh slappingly good film. A mockumentary at it's very finest. This is due in large part to the fantastic character work by all actors involved, but also thanks to the amazing set design and flawless costume and make-up work. All of this was enhanced by a great soundtrack, some very clever and seamless use of CGI and of course some stupendously skilled editing. Very cool.
All performances were so clever and natural that it is very hard to pinpoint any stand out players, though as well as the three leads, I have to mention the fab work of Jackie Van-Beek as Jackie, Deacon's human servant. Her dry and nonchalant delivery is just hilarious. And who could forget to mention the fatherly werewolf pack leader played by Rhys Darby.
What We Do In The Shadows is one of the best mockumentaries I have ever seen. Entertaining from start to finish, a hilarious concept that just gets funnier as the story progresses. And dare I say good enough to kick Sacha Baron-Cohen off his pedestal as mockumentary king. That's right, it's far better than Borat.
Five fangs out of a possible five.
Go see it. And see it at the cinema for full comic effect.
P.S: Pee before you go in or you may wet your pants laughing. Alternatively you could wear adult nappies.
Howdy Readers! I can't believe it is already June! Where has the year gone? As far as winter goes it has not been too brutal in Wellington this year (touch wood). We are surely lighting fires but not so desperately. It's funny that I speak of the weather, it seems like a very Wellingtionian thing to discuss. Why? Because if you live in Wellington, "good weather" usually means it is not raining, though you may possibly be blown away or freeze your vital organs to an irreparable state. "Bad weather" on the other hand equates to a day spent purely indoors, hoping desperately that the roof doesn't blow off, whilst also locating all camping equipment in case there is the ever expected power cut. It can actually be quite fun though in a cosy/camping kind of way. If I had a nickel for every time the Lover-man and I have spent an evening boiling a pot of water on the fire to make tea and playing Yahtzee, I'd have a lot of nickels. Maybe about seven.
Anyway! Enough with the small talk. This is where we tell you about some cool things we've discovered this month, be it beauty related, book related, food related or whatever. Enjoy!
I even converted Lisette to it! Raw fish that is actually marinated in lemon to make it cooked. So tender, so juicy! We went out for a delicious brunch on Sunday at Marine Parade Deli and I was so excited to see Ika Mata on the menu. Lisette said I was disgusting but then after tasting the Ika Mata she remembered how awesome I am and vowed to trust my judgement always.
Kale Chips! Yeah I know, call me a hipster but I have to say I am totally hooked on Kale Chips! The Lover-man was hugely opposed to the idea at first. I don't blame him though, I mean once you have juiced kale and tasted its vile venom, it is hard to believe that kale can be used in any dish without tainting it with it's miserable bitterness. But low and behold! Who knew that if you just slathered on some olive oil, sprinkled on some salt and popped it in the oven for 10 minutes, its dark evil leaves would turn into crispy delicious chips! Who knew indeed!
I have also gone wild for Yoghurt Story! It is the coolest little self serve frozen yoghurt bar, where you pick your own fro-yo flavour - I heart the natural one with a little swirl of chocolate flavour on top - then you go for the toppings - Chocolate sauce and Strawberries for me! It is faboo!. Me and my boys head out there at least once a week for our frozen yoghurt dates. So much fun!
Mariana and I saw an interestingly disturbing film together in the weekend called The Paperboy, starring Zac Efron (sawoon!), Nicole Kidman and Matthew McConaughey. Kind of gross, but oddly appealing in a Game of Thrones kind of way. Oh My God! Game of Thrones! Eeeek! The anticipation is killing me! Thank God the next episode is on tonight! #longlivetyrion
'Her' - you know the one where the guy falls in love with his computer. That was a good movie. It stars the formerly retired Joaquin Phoenix.
I am currently in the process of reviewing skincare by Osmosis and I am in love with their Quench daily moisturiser! It is so delicious smelling and hydrating I can't get enough of it. Watch this space for my full review very soon!
I went a little nuts over at Beauty Joint a few weeks ago and amongst many other things, I bought my first ever Lime Crime lipstick! It is sooo pretty! Who says it's bad to judge a book by it's cover! Let me tell ya, Lime Crime's range of delish opaque lipsticks are every bit as fab as the gorgeous, sparkly-unicorn adorned outside! I went for Airborne Unicorn - the first step toward a very large collection me thinks! Next up - Great Pink Planet!
Nude by Nature. I have this pack that has everything in it that I need and I carry it around like it is my newborn baby. Mineral cover? Check. Cream blush? Check. Mineral Primer? Check. Lipgloss? Check.
Mariana: Songs about drunk women. For example 'Stay High' by Tove Lo.
Lisette: While I am not a huge fan of Miley Cyrus's music (though Wrecking Ball does hold a special place in my heart) but I am a HUGE fan of this cover of We Can't Stop by Scott Bradley and The Postmodern Jukebox. It is safe to say that this cover is about 10 times better that the original by Ms Cyrus. But hey why not let you decide for yourself. Check out both versions below and you be the judge! And just to be clear, I am not comparing the videos, thoouugh, I don't think Miley would win my vote on that front either!
If you liked this song then you should check out the rest of the album here! Pop songs from artists like Kesha, Robin Thicke and Lady Gaga re-gigged as Doo-Woo or even Honkey-Tonk. So Cool! I have Thrift Shop stuck my head - in a good way!
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